Energizing vs. Draining Friends

Maybe you're not sure what effect your friends are really having on you. Take some time to really be honest with yourself about how you answer the following questions:

• How do you feel after you hang out with your friends? 
• Do you feel like there is always drama going on?
• Do you feel like you are always trying to solve an argument? 
• Do you notice you always make bad choices when hanging out with certain friends? 

Try this:

1. Sit down in a private place with paper and a pen. 
2. Write each of your friends' names on the piece of paper. 
3. In just a couple of words, describe each of your friends' qualities (kind, supportive, complains, cheerful, self-centered, calm, etc.).
4. Now put a plus (energizing) or minus (draining) next to each friends' name depending on how their descriptions impact you. 

Take a few minutes when you're done to look at your list.  What do you notice?  Are most of the people on your list draining?  How much time are you spending with draining people?  

If you are spending the majority of your time with people who make your life more stressful, you may want to be a little more cautious about how much time you spend with them. Ask yourself how much they influence you.  What type of person do you turn into when you're with them? Evaluating the value and impact of your relationships can be a positive step in surrounding yourself with people who create less stress in your life, and make you happier as a result.